When they were their children’s ages, my nieces and only nephew never go out their own or with their friends to collect duit raya.
My only nephew, whose wife is expecting their first-born at the end of the month, never had the experience too. He and his sisters follow their parents on their Raya rounds.

One year, we had children from as far as Kampung Melayu in our area. These kids were clever to target the Malay reserve areas for their Raya rounds.
One of my nieces’ spouses, Azmi, told his daughter Syiqin that he had done it before but the circumstances have changed so much.
“Before, we never hear of children gone missing. Now, there are so many cases,” he said. His wife, Ila, would holler out to their two daughters and two sons to ensure that they have not ventured out of the compound.
Lin, niece number 5, tells me that her son, 12 year old Aliff never asked if he could go out with his friends during Raya. “His friends come to the house to ask him out. He doesn’t even ask me first whether he can go out or not. He just didn’t want to follow them.
“Anuar (the husband) doesn’t like it too although he had done it himself when he was Aliff’s age.”
Kids these days have it easy compared to their parents, who back then had to probably work part-time during school holidays to collect enough money to buy their first pair of jeans or branded sports shoes.
Some of my grandnieces and grandnephews have more than a pair of Raya shoes and wear branded items and accessories. Most are using handphones their parents bought them. Either they use their parents’ supplementary lines or their parents will top up the credit for them. They can get anything they want. Well, almost.
I think the parents are depriving the children of the experience but if its money they want, then they needn’t go out of the house to collect duit raya. Us adults give them Raya packets every year. They collect 12 raya packets alone namely from TokNyang, TokNgah, TokChu, TokAyah, Mak Long, Mak Ngah, Mak Anjang, Mak Uda, Mak Teh, Mak Alang, Cik Ajai and Cu Ayip. Between RM5 and RM10 per packet, they can easily earn RM100 or more.
I hand out 20 Raya packets in the house alone. In the last few years, it was sufficient to change RM200 for 20 RM5 notes to cover the number of grandnieces and grandnephews I have. Next year, I’ll see an addition of four more, of which one is a pair of twins.
The teenage girls do go out to their friends’ but their parents will send them there. A pickup time will be ascertained as to when their parents are to fetch them.
Some parents probably thought it is safe for their small children to walk in big groups but up against not one but many adults, these children would still render themselves helpless. The children can also be reckless especially when crossing traffic. Sometimes, the elder children will already be across the road while the younger ones are left behind on the opposite side.
I remember that whenever we go visiting the elders in Majidee, we would see the neighbourhood children in their best Raya garb walking in big groups. They’ll pop up at the doorsteps when you least expect them.
Most often that not, they’ll be asked, “nak kuih ke duit raya?” They will settle for duit raya anytime. Sometimes, they’ll ask for something to drink to quench their thirst.
That RM1, 50 sen or 20 sen could contribute to whatever their hearts’ desires – maybe that first pair of brand new jeans, brand sports shoes or the cheapest handphone in the market.







